I'm back...finally

Wow!!! I have been MIA for a super long time... I'm extremely busy for the pass months... No time to sleep well, don't even consider to update my blog... Hopefully, I can squeeze more time to tell you, my friends, what had happened... See you soon!!!

Where is my authority as mother?

I had been very busy lately. I wanted to post a lot of photos and share my stories but no extra time available for me to do it. Every night, not enough sleep. I had just started a new course which have to do a lot of assignments, presentations and prepare for quizs. Everyday after school, come back home to look after my daughter until late night. Yuxin's daddy was posted overseas and unlikely to come back in this year. This makes me more busy as I have to tackle my daughter alone. She is not an easy child to handle (maybe for me only). It really drain a lot of my energy. I can only wake up very early in the morning like 4-5am (sometimes too tired and wake up at 6am) to do my studying. Now I'm very derived from sleep.

Oh... to keep it short because I almost forgotten to write what I wanted. Every now and then, when come to educate and teach Yuxin my way, I always meet obstacles. Sometimes, I don't agree with Yuxin's daddy but it's ok because if I really insisted I can fight with him. The real problem lies when the obstacles is not her daddy. I am unable to list out everything but just to share a bit on today story.

Yuxin wanted to drink Yakult before her dinner and I did not allowed her to drink. Of course, she cried and insisted to have it. If I have the authority and nobody came to interfere, I can handle her well. Let her make noise and after sometime she will give in. I need to train her that she cannot always have what she wanted. I have to lay the rules and boundaries. I will definitely need to bear with her cries and screams. For her, I think it need at least 30 mins but I still can make her give in. So up to now do you know what is the obstacle that I'm facing? Not me, not my rules, not my daughter but are my ... ( I cannot name it - but can guess right?) This is not the first time and definitely will not be the last time.

You will asked why don't you voice out and do it your way? It is never easy. It is definitely hard to stay together. People from different backgrounds, different values, different education, different environment, different experiences, different exposure, so many differences... how to have the same view or objective? Especially, human is an defensive creature. Most of the time, people may take your words personally. Base on my previous experiences, even words not from my mouth, the fault will be me also. Maybe because I from the "external" and I don't bear their surname.

Sometimes I will questioned myself. Why should I make myself so unhappy? Why don't I stick to my previous concept of being single? Life was so simple and carefree and happy previously. There are so many whys? However, now it is no point to ask why since I cannot turn back the clock. You may ask me to look forward to the future. I am even more worry on that. I know definitely for sure there will be more problem ahead. Especially on the financial part because we not only have to support our child (maybe children in future... I don't know), there will be more to come. I don't see any bright light ahead of me yet. Hope that I would not fall, hope that I can see the light soon, hope everything goes smoothly. I don't ask for a lot just live comfortably is enough. I am not asking for a lot, right?

Victim of HFMD

Finally, Yuxin has recovered from HFMD (but still having bit of cough) and went to school today. On the 26th April, Mommy saw there were some spots on Yuxin's hands, foot and legs while bathing Yuxin. To my horror, I quickly called Daddy to come and see. Oh dear... both of us were very worried. I quickly bath Yuxin and brought her to clinic.

What we had been worrying for the last month had finally came "true". Unfortunately, she caught the disease but god bless that her case is minor. She did not had any blister on her mouth. I must really 谢天谢地 !(Thanks God!)

Although Yuxin has recovered last weekend but she had quite a lonely birthday celebration. Nobody dare to come because people are worried for their children. Only one relative family came. I can understand their feeling. If I put myself in their shoe, I may react the same way.

Quite disappointed! This is the first year that Yuxin understand what is birthday. This is the first year that maybe she can remember what had happened in her birthday. This is the first year that she is looking forward to cut her birthday cake... yet such thing happened. The night before, we were decorating the living room. She was so happy singing birthday song. The next morning, when she woke up, the first thing she did was ran out to living room and sang birthday song.

Actually Yuxin did enjoyed herself. She doesn't know who and who did not come. She enjoyed the presence of her cousins, she enjoyed blowing out the candles (twice some more), she enjoyed cutting the cake and she likes to receive presents. That night, she was so happy playing with her new toys that she played until 1am plus. Maybe it was not so bad afterall.

ASSOOOO... Continued...

I would like to share with you all some of the incidences that I had been through with this ass. Every time I was hurt, I told myself that I can get over it and be strong. I wanted to try and give my very best to success in this career. Too bad… If I was working with a better manager, things could be different.

Example 1 – STINGY, UNGENEROUS, ETC…

Like all other new staffs, I had to attend a course for beginners. This is the beginning that I get to find out more and more things. Initially, every meeting was only between me and ass so it was like I get my main source of info through him only. From these new friends, I found out that all of their managers paid for their exam fees. This could cost up to a few hundred dollars. I was the only one who has to pay for my own exam fees.

Some of you may not understand. What exam fees? Well, in order to work for this job, you need to be certified by passing the necessary exams, which is a rule & regulations from the government. If you failed for the first time, you can keep going for re-test and of course you have to pay for every test. I was told that some managers will pay for all the exam fees and some will only pay for the first attempt (so you will not abuse the privilege) and rarely some DON’T PAY. Unfortunately, I got one rare one. Hahaha… So ‘lucky’, right? I didn’t know about all this until the day I get to know new colleagues.

Example 2 – SARCASTIC, MEAN, UNREASONABLE, ETC…

Shortly after the beginner course, I need to spend some time to study for two more exams. So I told him I will not be able to come office. He scolded me badly. He criticized me.

Ass : “You will not be successful because you cannot multi-task. You don’t need so much time to study. In future, you go outside to work you will not be successful… blah blah blah…”

I was angry and I argued with him. He cannot listen to people’s explanation. He was just being unreasonable. To me, I myself paid for the exams and I wanted to pass it on the first time. Furthermore, he thought I can stay at home whole day to study. Of course not, I still have to look after my child and the time left to study was not much.

This was not the only time he scolded me ‘Not Successful’. There were a few more times. I can guarantee that every time he was very unreasonable.

Example 3 – SARCASTIC, MEAN, ETC…

For those who know me, you will know that I hardly wear skirt. This is my individual preference. So one fine day, this ass mentioned how come I never see you wear skirt before. I didn’t bother to answer him. I don’t think I have to wear skirt to close a sale. Do you agree with me? Then after a while, few of us went to have a tea-break at coffeeshop. The ass being not satisfied on his sarcastic appetite started shooting his arrows against me. He asked his part-time clerk the following questions.

Ass : “Tell me what is the reason that a woman who doesn’t wear skirt?”
Clerk : “For convenience, for work which need to move around and carry things.”
Ass: “Any other reasons?”
Clerk : “Don’t know.”
Ass : “Of course there are many other reasons. Maybe the woman has hairy legs or has fatty legs or ugly legs or her leg has some scars.”

Will you be mad when someone said this to you? It was worst till he said it to a 3rd party which is indirectly scolding you. I was really angry at that time and almost wanted to scold him pervert. I control and control and swallow my sorrow.

Example 4 – Boastful, Unprofessional, Think-He-Know-It-All, ETC

For this trade, you really have to be dependent on your manager to learn lots of skill and product knowledge. I do have nice colleagues to help me when I asked them questions. However, the manager must be obliged to train new staff which is the company requirement. Do you think he has done his job well? Think about it after reading these examples.

a) Me : “What does this mean? How to explain to customer?”
Ass : “Don’t worry. Nobody will ask this. Even if there is, it is only a very small
portion. This mean… blah blah blah… You can flip to this page and explain it
accordingly. Then after that quickly change topic.”

b) Ass : “Sign these training documents.”
Me : (Reading through what is the content. This document is a record to prove that the manager has given the new staff ‘so & so’ training.)
Ass : “No need to read, just sign. No one bother to read.”

Actually, what was written inside is not the true fact. It is for show only.

c) Ass : “It is impossible to train you all the products. You just have to know Product A, B, C & D will do. Go out and practice with these knowledge first. If you are good enough, just by selling these few products can earn a living.”

d) Ass : “Product X, Y & Z commission is very low. No point selling and training.”

e) Ass : “You still have not able to sell A, B, C or D, no point to train you more.”

f) Me : “I have customers comparing our product with another company.”
Ass : “Just counter by saying this & that… blah blah blah… Sometimes customers who are picky & choosey we can just forgo them. No point wasting your time.”

To me, this is so unprofessional. We should be good not only in our own products and also competitors’, especially him. At least, we have to point out which area of our products is better, instead of saying just forgo. Every consumer has the right to compare and it is explain to customer in a more professional manner.

Example 5 – MEAN, STINGY, CALCULATIVE, CHEAP, ETC

One fine day, in the middle of a meeting in the presence of colleagues, he made me very angry and upset. I left the meeting after he said those mean words to me.

Ass : “Do you have EQ?”
Me : “Yes.”
Ass : “I don’t think so. You don’t have EQ.”
Me : “Why?”
Ass : “Because I buy you lunch and you didn’t said thank you. I don’t know what is your
family upbringing… blah blah blah…”

What the fuck! I wanted to scold him back but I controlled. In the end I walked out of the meeting. Initially, when we have lunch together, I always wanted to return him the money but he refused to take it. After a few times, the same thing happened, I pay but he refused to take. I thought he always want to treat his staffs for lunch/dinner. Then I had stopped pushing the money here and there, to me it just doesn’t look good. Will you react the same as me? I felt no point every time I have to push the money here and there.

At first, I thought he wanted to show his generosity. Or maybe he thought I can bring in big bucks for him very quickly. After some time, he saw that my result was slow and he changed his attitude so quickly.

Furthermore, we only eat hawker food. Every time, he was the one who wanted me to join him for lunch/dinner. Sometimes I really don’t feel like eating but since he kept asking so I just join in.

I remembered that ‘EQ’ meeting happened shortly after CNY. He as a manager felt obligated to treat his staffs for ‘Lo Hei’ and maybe he felt I don’t deserve his treat but he cannot say so. That’s why he was finding one opportunity to arrow me. Actually, that day I don’t even feel like eating because I had gum problem but I felt that must give face to people so never mind just join in. I should have rejected the lunch treat.

Who do you think has no EQ? Me or the ass?

There were many other stories to share but that could be too long-winded. The final incident was the worst which make me decided to leave. As the incident involved a 3rd party and it was complicated so I shall not discussed it here. Ever since I had joined him, I became very stress, upset, demoralize and angry. I couldn’t even sleep well occasionally. I am glad that I had left. If not, I will have to suffer silently.

Yuxin was sicked again

Yuxin visited the doctor on last Monday (21/04) due to a bad running nose and a fever. The night before was tough for her because she couldn't sleep well due to the flu. She kept rubbing her nose in the mid-night and couldn't breath smoothly when she was lying down.

She just started her school for 3 weeks only and she had already visited the doctor for 3 times (which cost us around S$100). The first time was because of fever. Then later she had cough and phlegm so visited doctor for the 2nd time. Maybe she was not fully recovered and we let her went back to childcare that's why her phlegm got worsen and now lead to running nose.

To make things worse, her childcare had some cases of hand foot mouth disease so we were wondering should we send her back to school. Up to now, she still has phlegm and bit of running nose. (Why the viruses are so strong and doesn't want to leave my Yuxin alone?!) So her body resistance is still weak. How can I feel safe to let her go back school? (Also wasted money for this month school fee since most of the days she was sicked and couldn't attend school.)

Sigh... What a headache! :(
Let's hope that the peak of HFMD be gone soon and Yuxin can build up her body resistance.

TagBoard is having problem

For the pass few days, I have been trying to leave some messages into my tagboard but don't know why it cannot be done. Friends, I would like to reply you but have to wait till I fix the problem... Btw, any one having the some problem too?

Yuxin in Childcare

My little Yuxin has just started attending childcare (full day) last Wednesday. This is the start of nightmare. She did cry in the childcare centre but for a while only so it’s not too bad at school. After she came back from school, she starts to vent her anger and frustrations to her family, especially her mother. Even very very small things can agitated her, she became very fussy and she can cried so sadly as if we had ill-treated her. This really drained a lot of my energy and it is really really not easy to calm and console Yuxin. For the first few nights, it was horrible and every time she cried, it will last for hours. We never saw Yuxin behaved like that before.

Maybe Mommy had spoiled her previously or maybe Yuxin is a demanding child or maybe she feel very upset that Mommy send her to school because she thought Mommy don’t like her anymore, or maybe……

Day 1 (3 Apr 2008)
Happily go school and Mommy just stand aside to watch her enjoying the activities. Her lunch time is at 12pm and Mommy helped to feed Yuxin on the first day. Then followed by bathing and then milk time for napping. Mommy left the school when Yuxin was drinking her milk at around 1 pm. I thought so far so good but when I went to fetch her at around 5pm plus she was crying badly. The moment Yuxin saw me, she quickly ran to me and hugged me tightly and wanted me to carry her. The teacher told me that Yuxin started crying when she saw other parents came to fetch their children so the teacher advised me to come at around 4.30pm if possible for the beginning. When we were on our way home, Yuxin said “Mommy, 我想你(I miss you).” I replied “I miss you too.”

Day 2 (4 Apr 2008)
As usual, I had to wake Yuxin for school in the morning. However, she don’t want to wake up and said she don’t want to go to school. I tried to comfort her and told her school is fun and she agreed to go school without much resistance. This day, Mommy accompany Yuxin until 11.30am before she have her lunch. By 4.30pm, I went to fetch Yuxin and she seemed ok.

Day 3 (5 Apr 2008)
Ah ha… This day, she seemed to know I will leave her alone in school so she wanted me to stay beside her and I cannot stay at a corner to watch. After a while, Yuxin said she wanted to go home so I tried to talk to her to make her calm down but this can only last for sometime. Later, she totally did not want to play and tried to pull me away and wanted to go home and she looked like wanting to cry. The teacher advised me that it is better for me to leave now otherwise if I leave after her lunch, it may not be good for her digestion if she cry. I agreed with the teacher and left. Of course, Yuxin cried badly when I left her. Poor girl… Mommy love you, please don’t cry! By 4.30pm, Mommy was anxious to go fetch Yuxin and wondered how she is. I decided to bring her buy ice cream after school to make her happy. When I arrived and saw her in school, she was enjoying and I felt so relieved. The teacher told me that Yuxin only cried for a while and then she was back to normal.

When we walked out of the childcare, I told Yuxin that we were going to buy ice cream. I asked “Do you like ice cream?” She said yes. So we hold each other’s hand and walked happily to supermarket and I didn’t know nightmare is coming and I can be so embarrassed in the public. As I had mentioned before, even since Yuxin started attending childcare, she purposely misbehaved at home and became very demanding and very ordering and kept crying very badly. So Yuxin brought all of these ‘assets’ to the supermarket. After I had chosen the ice cream, Yuxin wanted to open immediately. I told her that she had to wait until Mommy get one more item and pay money first before you can open.

Do you think she will listen to my instructions? Ha ha… Easy guess, right? She insisted to hold onto the ice cream box and she managed to tear open the plastic wrapping. So Mommy was like doing wrestling with her in the supermarket, pulling her to walk and trying to snatch away her ice cream. I could not think of anything but to quickly pay money and leave. Even when I was paying at the cashier, Yuxin was still crying and making a lot of noise. After paying, I wanted to quickly leave who knows the ice cream promoter came and told me I had forgotten to ask for my free bag. This auntie also reprimanded Yuxin for making so much noise and make Mommy forgotten to do things.

So I quickly followed the auntie to get the bag and Yuxin was still trying to snatch the ice cream. Then, the auntie asked “Which colour you want?” I said “Anything will do.” So the auntie gave me a purple bag. Do you think the story end here? Because I had took the bag and can now leave the supermarket. Hahaha… Not yet…

Yuxin had switched and divert her attention to the PURPLE bag. On my way out, she managed to snatch the purple bag out of the plastic bag and she cried loudly “I don’t want purple bag, I want pink colour bag!” Then she THREW the purple bag back inside the supermarket. Three of the supermarket staffs were nearby and one of them picked up the bag for me. I was so very embarrassed by that time. I took back the bag and carry Yuxin and walked away as quickly as possible. By the time I reached home, Yuxin was still screaming that she wanted a pink bag. Oh my god! Actually, she doesn’t really fancy on the bag, she was just finding another opportunity to cry and vent her frustrations.

On the Weekends
Do you think she will not misbehave on weekends since there is no schooling? No no… Whenever there is a chance, she will start her crying again…

Day 4 (7 Apr 2008)
Monday, Mommy have to go office so I quickly drop Yuxin and left. Of course, cry again but teacher told me for a while only. I came back to fetch her at 5.30pm and she look happy in school.

Day 5 (8 Apr 2008)
Routine repeat again. Yuxin cried a while when I left and look happy when I fetch her.

Day 6 (9 Apr 2008)
Oh dear! Yuxin had fever! I was worried that she might get hand foot mouth disease since now is the peak period of this disease spreading. I quickly checked her hands, foot and mouth and found nothing. We let her see doctor immediately and luckily no sign of HFMD.

Last night (10 Apr), I told Yuxin if you recovered from fever you have to go school tomorrow. She replied “No. I cannot go school. I am still having fever.” She kept trying to convince me not to let her go school because she is sick. At such a young age, she can find excuses not to go school already. Nowadays, kids are really smart.

Today, Yuxin visited the doctor again because of cough and phlegm. Up to now, she is still behaving oddly. Hopefully, she can get use to go childcare and stop all her crying soon.

Asshole Boss

Actually, I had posted this for a day last month then I removed it. I'm not used to 'scold' people and wanted to give a 2nd chance and tried to tolerant everything. However, something BAD happened AGAIN and I could no longer forgive that man anymore. Here is what I wrote last month :

At first I was holding back to talk 'bad' about people. However, this time round I was really angry and piss off at my boss. For those friends who don't know what I am doing now... Ok... I have started my new career in XXX company in Dec 07/Jan 08. So now the time is ripe and I'm going to blast all my anger and frustrations...

For all the following complains that I'll be making, it is make against a person NOT the company. I would need to make it very clear. It is a good company. Except that I was UNLUCKY enough to be under such a manager.

Today was not the first time that I have unhappy incident with the asshole. Last month it happened also. Initially, when I joined under him I don't know his personality. Like all other people in the working world, you don't know your boss very well until after sometime. If I would know he is such a stingy, selfish, mean, ungenerous, calculative, cheap, proud, boastful, sarcastic & think he know-it-all, I would definitely not join him. It is really a diaster to me!

The worst of this asshole is that he is very selfish, stingy & sarcastic. The 3S so that's why I called him asshole!

Down with teeth gum swollen and sore throat

What a special rat year! On the second day of CNY, I started to have pain on my teeth and it was even more painful when I eat. At first, I thought I was too heaty so I drank 2 cans of herbal tea. Then on the third day of CNY, the pain worsen and I could feel a lump beside my teeth. Out of curiousity, I looked at the mirror. To my horror, I saw my gum was swollen. It was very uncomfortable and painfully when I eat. The whole day I was very uneasy with the swollen gum. That night, we still went visiting but I was really feeling uncomfortable and awkard.

Can you imagine if your hand or leg was swollen, it would bleed and sometimes have those yellowish liquid flowing out... so imagine this happened inside your mouth... eerrrggghhh... disgusting, right?

Then, on the fourth day, I could stand no more and went to see doc. He gave me antibiotic and sore throat medicine. I was scared that it was my teeth root having problem so I asked doc what's happening. He told me that it was food stucked inside the gum and got infection. Heng ah! I was so worried that I may go teethless. Now, the big stone dropped...

Today, the swell has subsided and there was not much pain. Hopefully, such thing don't happened again...

Welcome 2008!!!

Oh dear... I'm so late to wish everyone Happy 2008... I was so busy lately that I don't have much time to sit down in front of the pc. I'm so busy that I did not have enough sleep lately. Mainly due to new changes in my life and I am adjusting myself to these changes.

Why am I so secretive about these changes? Why make people guess and asked what changes huh? Wait till the time is ripe... I will pour out all my complains and my stories...

Now, I would like to share with friends two near accidents case happened in December.

First incident : One fine day, the whole family was on our way to my friend's house for a gathering. Of course, Yuxin's daddy was driving and when we were almost reaching our destination suddenly Daddy made an emergency brake. Mommy was playing with Yuxin and we were a bit shock on the e-brake. What happened?! The moment I looked up... Alamak!!! There was a group of cyclist crossing the road (Of course, riding their bicycle). One of them was already in the middle of the road. Hey!!! Young men!!! Are you blind!!! Can't you see it's red light for pedestrain!!! Actually, the road has a slight uphill so drivers cannot see far. That's why only after our car pass the first road junction then we could see those cyclist crossing the road on the second junction. We were so close, so close, so close... almost hit the cyclist. Please, please... all the cyclist out there please don't 'play play' on the road.

Second incident : On the last day of 2007, our family went for Daddy's company D&D. We enjoyed ourselves with the food, talking with our friends and also the funny mc on the stage. When it was around 2300 plus, we decided to take Yuxin out for a walk. She has been sitting on the baby chair for hours and we should let her do some stretching. Then, we decided to stay outside for the count down. The reason why is because inside the ballroom was too noisy as the music was very loud and secondly the hotel will have balloons falling down from the ceiling for the counting down ceremony. So Mommy, Daddy & Yuxin were waiting at the lobby, standing below the balloons with many other people together... Waiting, waiting & waiting... Suddenly, Mommy felt something fell from the top and hit me & Yuxin. At that moment, I was carrying Yuxin. I was curious... What could have hit us? In the middle of no where? What could have fall from the ceiling? There was nothing above us but balloons. I find and looked around the floor near me. To my HORROR!!! Can you imagine what I found?! SCISSOR! I was angry... I was thinking of making a big fuss about this. In the end, being a nice person (hahaha... shameless to say myself nice) I didn't. There were a few of the hotel staff standing around for the "balloon ceremony". I signal to one of the staff to come and pick up the scissor. He was shocked too to see the scissor on the floor. Up to now, I don't think I have to explain why scissor was falling down from above... Of course, it was due to careless staff who was standing by to cut those big big net that was holding balloons.

After these two incidents, I am glad that I am still alive. Can you imagine what if the scissor cut through my head? Or even worse, Yuxin's head. I really must thank 神 or 仙 or God or fairies or angels or ancestors, whoever is protecting us. THANK YOU!!!

Potty Training - Partially Successful

For the whole of last week, Yuxin has been urinating in a potty. Hurray! After many months and times of trying to let Yuxin use potty and the results are showing now. At first, I was worried that she may not use the potty even when she is three. Now, my worries are gone.

Mommy was very 'kiasu', she actually bought three different types of potty to train Yuxin. Initally, I bought those standard sitting type potty. Then it was not successful. So I bought another one, which is those traditional type that I used when I was small. This traditional potty sometimes will stick to Yuxin's backside when she stood up. After sometimes, I bought another one which is an 'add-on' type and it is to place on top of adult potty. However, in the end Yuxin uses the very first one that I bought.

Although Yuxin can urine in the potty on her own now but she still don't know how to make 'big business' in the potty. For a few times, she done her businesses onto her shorts. She need to do it in a standing position. Usually, I will put back diaper to let her pass motions comfortably. If not, she will feel awkard and cry and don't know how to 'pang sai'. Hahaha...

Mommy cut her hand badly

Today, I had my first and horrible experience of 'lossing so much blood by a cut' in my life. Just don't know why I can be so clumsy. I dropped a bowl while I was washing it and it broke. I didn't even know how the broken bowl cut my hand. The very moment I broke the bowl, my hand was bleeding furiously. The blood kept pouring out. I felt painful & giddy. After a little rest I went down to clinic to see our family doc. The doc gave me a jab and said the cut is not very bad, it can do without stitch. He kept explaining to me, when such thing happened don't panic, just get a clean towel, press & hold on the cut to stop the bleed.

For me, when I saw my hand bleeding I was at a lost. I put my hand under running water to wash away any impurities. It was Yuxin's grandma who told me to get a towel to press on the cut. Then she applied chinese medicine "青草油" onto the cut, which is very painful. Luckily Yuxin had recovered from fever which started on last Saturday and doesn't need my full attention on her. She was obedient when the accident happened. She only said kept saying "mommy 流血". What will happened if Yuxin keep crying when she saw mommy was bleeding badly? I cannot imagine... Now, I can understand something better. It goes "I'm a mother. I cannot afford to fall sick. If I'm down, who is going to take care of my child."

Yuxin is back from KKH

Finally, Yuxin & mommy were back to home sweet home after a 9 days stay in KKH. Although Yuxin still have slight diarrhoea now but she is well with no fever & vomit. God bless...

You must be wondering how come stayed so many days in KKH. Here is the explaination :

DAY 1 (Sunday)
Mommy & Daddy were very worried on Yuxin's fever & diarrhoea so we decided to go KKH. Initially, the junior doc said we could go back home with medication to be taken at home. However, after seeking advice from senior doc, we were told to stay for observation.

DAY 2 (Monday)
Fever kept go up & down. Diarrhoea for 15x. Medicine on fever & diarrhoea was given except antibiotic. Samples of blood, urine & stools were taken for tests.

DAY 3 (Tuesday)
Fever continued to go up & down. Diarrhoea for 7x. Test results were out and all were negative, including rotavirus.

DAY 4 (Wednesday)
Fever could stop for about 1/2 day and then came back. Diarrhoea 8x. This day, doc said if no more fever for 24 hours, Yuxin could discharged on the following day. So mommy is looking forward on the next day to discharge.

DAY 5 (Thursday)
Fever stopped but suddenly returned so cannot go home. Diarrhoea 8x. This evening, Yuxin started to vomit (2x).

DAY 6 (Friday)
Again cannot go home due to fever come & go, come & go. Diarrhoea 8x. There were three times her stools were very watery & extremely smelly (Mommy almost fainted) that it even wet the bedsheet. Again Yuxin vomited twice this evening. This day, a senior doc came along with those usual young docs to check on Yuxin. They were worried on Yuxin's continuous fever. Finally, they decided to take another round of blood & stools tests. Beside this, they also decided to gave Yuxin antibiotic. The nightmare came. The doc need to insert a 'needle' on Yuxin's hand so that they can inject the antibiotic daily. During the process of insertion, Yuxin was crying & screaming for pain. Mommy & Daddy were not allowed in the room and were waiting outside. Both of us almost wanted to cry too because Yuxin was so much in pain.

DAY 7 (Saturday)
Diarrhoea 4x. Fever more or less settled down. Daddy was furious as he did asked for antibiotic in the first place but the doc said no need. If given earlier, Yuxin doesn't need to suffered for so many days. So do you think fever has gone and it's the end of story? Wait... some more coming up. Yuxin vomited 9x this day. Her vomit condition worsen during the night (7x). Whatever she ate or even drink, she would throw up. In the end up she was on drip.

DAY 8 (Sunday)
Fever had completely stopped for this day. However, Yuxin still has diarrhoea for 8x. Although, after medication, the stools had changed better but the frequency doesn't seem to decrease. This day, Yuxin was not suppose to eat or drink anything. This was very painful for mommy & daddy as Yuxin kept asking for food but we could not gave her any. Also, the doc took another blood sample for testing on salt content. Yuxin cried badly again.

DAY 9 (Monday)
The results were out. The stools report indicated that Yuxin was infected by salmonella bacteria. At first, mommy was worried and disppointed that we could not go home again. However, the senior doc gave us the green light to go home. The reason that we could go home was the antibiotic that Yuxin was having was the correct cure for this bacteria. We could go home with the diarrhoea medication will do.


Now Yuxin is recovering at home. Her diarrhoea condition is getting better with lesser quantity and frequency. Let's wish Yuxin can recovered completely soon.

Please please please... Yuxin get well soon

From last mid-night until this morning was my worst nightmare. Yuxin was having high fever with no sign of getting down on the temperature even after medication. She had fit twice. (she also had diarrhea yesterday 4x and mid-night 1x) The fit happened once in the mid-night and the 2nd time was in this morning when we were on the way to the clinic. We ran like crazy from first clinic but closed, second clinic but doctor was not here yet and finally third one. I rushed in first and cried for emergency. The doctor came immediately and gave her medicine to stop her fit. After examing Yuxin, doctor said must maintain her temperature lower and any sign of fit again must send her to KK hospital immediately. Since there's nothing I can do now (Yuxin is sleeping) except to take turn with daddy to rub her body and head to keep her cool, I pray and pray hardly... please get well soon or at least drop a bit more on her temperature.

Yuxin is down with cough, running nose & a blue black

Yuxin is sick again. She had mild running nose on last Saturday and I gave Yuxin some chinese medicine and hope that she would recovered like previous time. Unfortunately, she did not recovered but got worsen on the following day. Too bad for Yuxin that she was unable to attend my friend's wedding on Sunday and so did not play with her little friends.

For the blue black, it was still a mystery to me how she could fell so badly on last Friday. She was not running, not jumping and not climbing yet she could fell with a loud bang on the floor. Poor thing... She cried very badly with her left face and left hand red. Then not long after the fall, the blue black appeared on her face. Until now, the blue black is still on her face. Hopefully, the blue black will be gone soon.

Yuxin can wear her shoes occasionally!

Last night, Yuxin wear her shoes all by her own. Then, she took her mommy's shoe and throw outside the door. This means that she wanted to go out. I always 'throw' my shoes outside the door to go out so she learn this from me. This is not the first time she can wear her own shoe. Her first time happened quite sometime ago which her mommy cannot even remember. Sometimes she got it right but most of the time she couldn't able to put on her shoe and she will get frustrated.

Usually, at late hour I would not allow Yuxin to go out however last night was exceptional. I walked with Yuxin around the neighbourhood and sometimes I had to carry her. We came back quite late, slightly after 11pm. Luckily, Yuxin went to sleep shortly after we cleaned her body and feed her with milk. Sometimes I feel that it is good to let Yuxin have a walk at night so she can sleep early and better but not too late of course.

Yuxin slap my face!

Last Friday midnight, while I was sleeping I experienced a shock of my life. Someone slapped my face really hard and I jumped up the bed. I was shocked and turn around to see who slapped me and I saw my naughty Yuxin smiling at me. For all my life, I was never been slapped on my face while sleeping. This is no fun. It was really painful. I could never imagine a two year old can slap me so painful. Yuxin really give me a horrible fright. In the end, I scolded Yuxin madly and she even laughed at me again. She looked very happy to see me in a shock. This make me really really angry and I gave her some 'red decorative hand prints' in return for her 'nice and unforgettable gift' to me. She did learnt her lesson and for the following nights before sleep, she will say 'cannot slap mommy'.

Cry & cry non-stop

I know my little Yuxin is a stubborn girl. She is very persistence. She always wanted what she wants. If she cannot get it, she will make sure she'll get it. Or maybe we pampered her too much? That she is having this behaviour...

Yesterday I caught her playing with a 'plastic' scissor so I decided to keep it and explained to her that she cannot play with scissor. (Actually, the scissor is not sharp and is meant for kids but I still don't want her to play because she is too young to differentiate real and fake scissor.) Immediately, Yuxin burst into tears. She cried and cried non-stop and kept saying she wanted to play with scissor.

The crying went on and on and I kept explaining to her but end up I give up and closed my ears. Yuxin kept crying for 30 minutes non-stop! Finally, Yuxin's mommy cannot take it anymore and gave her some 'red decorative hand prints'. Then she finally know that I am angry and stop crying after a few minutes.

By now, Yuxin was already very tired and went to take her nap after drinking her milk. I thought finally it's over and no more crying but when she woke up she cried again. I believed she had a dream. She immediately stood up and ran to the door, crying... She wanted me to open the door and go out with her.

Aiyo... not again... I console her and said 'You can only go out after you had taken your bath and dinner.' But Yuxin wouldn't listen. She kept crying and pulling me to the door. I don't know how long she cried for this time but I know I cannot always give in. In the end, I won the battle. Yuxin finally calmed down and stopped crying.

Then, at night suddenly she told me 'Cannot play with scissor' and she repeated it to me this morning. I am quite satisfied this time as Yuxin learn a lesson - "SCISSOR... NO NO..."

Weird neighbour's wife gone "CRAZY"

ALAMAK! Today, the weird neighbour's wife gone "crazy". It was like very dramatic. It was around 12.45pm when things happened. I had just finished eating my lunch and was clearing the table. Suddenly, I heard someone screamed very loudly and something fallen. It was our neighbour's stuff fallen.

At first, I thought maybe our neighbour quarelled but after a few minutes the wife came back again. And this time is no joke! She screamed very loudly, throwed things, lie down on the floor and ran around. She was like "鬼上身". She behaved abnormally and she wore short skirt, pinkish red from head to toe. (Usually she wear very simply) Her husband couldn't stop her.

Yuxin at first wanted to see but her grandma quickly closed the door. I couldn't know exactly what happened later because I need to look after Yuxin. Once a while, I did peep through the door hole. Sometimes I could see her outside and sometimes couldn't. I only saw her poured water, sprinkled water with a long leaf and washed the corridor floor. Sometimes I heard her said something loudly but I could not understand since she spoke Hokkien. Sometimes I heard her cried.

In the end, the police came and they carried her to hospital. Everything ended at around 3.00pm. The whole corridor was a mess. She peel and throw oranges skin outside her house and many other things. Her son was scared and he stayed in his next door neighbour. You must be wondering where is the husband 'cum father' when the wife behaved crazily. He is no where to be seen... At first, he was around and he tried to stop his wife but she wanted to beat him. Then after a while, he was gone, I did not saw him around except his son. How could a husband ran away when his wife is sick?

To be continue... The husband came back at around 3.45pm. He was clearing the mess now.

Weird neighbour

Since I already wrote on my rude neighbour and why not I write about this weird neighbour. This middle age man, married and with a son in Primary school, has an unusual habit. He is a person who like cleaniness and cannot stand a bit of dust, chinese called 洁癖. He just stay next door.

The story is like this (which I heard from Yuxin's grandma) : The previous owner of our house is an old lady who stayed in this unit for more than 30 years. Half a year before Yuxin's daddy shifted in, this man shifted in and became the old lady's neighbour. After a while, I think this old lady could no longer stand this neighbour so ended up shifted house. In fact, this old lady shifted into the same block but different unit. So you can imagine an old lady who stay here for more than 30 years also wanted to shift. Actually, the area we are staying is an old neighbourhood that's why other neighbours will tell you some history.

So how come the old lady could not stand this neighbour? Here is my story and experiences. Every day this man will washed the corridor floor with no exception even during Chinese New Year. Ok?! He washed his corridor is his business but he will pour water onto our door step and sometimes water will come into the house. Therefore, we have a cloth put outside the door to clean away the water. Will you feel frustrated if your neighbour pour water onto your door step everyday?

Not only this, every morning when he wakes up, he will take out his blanket or pillows or whatever and beat it outside his house, either at the kitchen window or the corridor. Besides this, every time he come back, he will take out his T-shirt and 'waved/shaked' at outside of the corridor. It's like his shirt is very dirty that he has to 'waved/shaked' very strongly. Whenever, Yuxin saw him topless, she will show me a 'shame shame' action. Then, when he come back his routine is clean the house first so his wife and son have to wait outside for him. Only after he finished cleaning the house, the wife and son can go in. Then after that, he will sweep the corridor floor and then pour water. You don't think is only water, he even pour detergent also. So sometimes we need to go out and happened that he just wet the floor, we have to be extra careful because we have to walk on wet and slippery floor. Can you imagine we have young child and old lady and how dangerous it is if they fall?!

There was an incident which happened before Chinese New Year that really make us mad. This man hang a few 'dried fish' (I think it is 'Yu Piao') onto a bamboo stick and hang it outside the corridor. Those 'dried fish' are very smelly and he hang it diagonally across the corridor! So every time we walked pass we need to bend down our head to cross over and worse still when wind blow, our house is filled with smelly odour. Can you take it or not?! Yuxin's grandma did asked this man why you cannot hang inside your own house. Can you imagine what is his answer? He said hang inside the house very smelly! Bastard! Hang inside your house was smelly so hang outside not smelly, huh?! Initially, we thought maybe he hang for one or two days then forget it. Who knows after 2-3 days still there so Yuxin's uncle could no longer stand it, he shifted the bamboo stick to one side. At least shifting to a side we don't have to bend our head to walk over. And then after a few more days, the odour was not that smelly. Can you guess how long this man hang his 'dried fish' outside? If I didn't remember wrongly, it was almost a month. I remembered he hang out the 'dried fish' in the beginning of January and removed it before Chinese New Year in February.

One more thing, some people will paint their house before CNY so this man does the same. He not only paint his house, he also bought white paint to paint the whole of his corridor. Can you imagine?! Hahaha... then his effort has gone down the drain because in March our block was scheduled for repainting. So his corridor painting last for only a month. Then the story not yet end. When it is our floor turn for painting, he pasted his windows and door with paper. It looked ugly and horrible. All the workers were very curious why this man has to cover his house like that.

Last month, we arranged a carpenter to do some renovation works. The carpenter had to bring a lot things like tools and renovation materials therefore most of the things he had to put outside the corridor. I was hoping on that day that our neighbour come back only after our carpenter finished his work. Unfortunately, this man came back before our renovation completed. So I asked Yuxin's daddy to tell this man to wash the corridor floor after the work completed. I could not remember exactly what this man said but I know he said something sarcastic back to my husband. Then he went back into his house. After sometime, he came out with a can of insecticide. He sprayed insecticide onto the floor/on our renovation materials!!! He was like inspecting the floor very carefully looking for ??##**%%!! Or he did it purposely because he was unhappy that all the stuff dirtied his floor??!! I was very furious when I saw him spraying insecticide. Later, he came out and put a pail of water outside. I was worried that he would washed the floor and destroy our stuff (it's wood) so we told the carpenter to bring in all his stuff into the house. Although in the end, the man did not washed the floor when the carpenter was around but I was still unhappy that he sprayed insecticide.

Besides this, there were also some story before we came back. He did not allow us to put flower pots and shoe rack and metal pail (for burning incense and praying stuff). He said you can put but he will still pour water onto it! This man almost (but didn't) cause a fight with our family (we were not back yet when this happened)

Sigh... What can I say? I have never encounter such person in my life. Only came back for a year and I came across and encountered so many things. For those who are staying comfortably without any problematic neighbours, if you want to shift house, do re-consider and choose your house carefully. You not only have to look inside of the house but 'outside'(neighbours) is also very important.